 WMerlin64
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Posted: Thu Mar 11, 2010 11:39 am Post subject: How do I buy the family home?
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Hello,
Brief synopsis:
Moved to home when I was the last kid still at home (about 13 yrs old). My father always said the house would be mine one day. My dad passed away, my mom remained in the house, I helped her with the yard and major work every year.
About 3 years ago my mom got really ill, when she was about ready to be released from the hosipital my brothers wanted to sell her house and put her in a nursing home.
She wanted to be in her own home, the doctors and all the studies that I read agreed that she would do better in her own surroundings. My brothers agreed as long as she had 'live in' care. My daughter and I moved in with her as 'caregivers', my daughter took care of her grandmother during the day so that I could work. She was paid for her services.
My mom made an amazing recovery (better than expected).
I found a senior center in our city and she went there during the daytime, so that I could work, and then I handled all her other needs. My brother 'handled' her finances. He kept telling me 'moms going broke' so, little by little I started taking on more responsibilities.
One day, after my mom telling me that she didn't understand why my brother kept saying that she was going broke, because her and my father had planned well. I told my brother that I was going to have an accountant look into her finances, because there must be something he's missing, he went balistic, screaming and saying that he was going to sell the house and put her in a home. My head was spinning and my moms also. Nothing made sense.
Within a month my brother had a surprise trip planned for my mom, wisked her away, and I never saw her again, until her funeral.
Now, I want to buy the family home, which she told him almost on a daily basis that she wanted me to have, and the bottom line is that he does not want me to have it.
I'm not looking to have it for free, I realize that I must purchase it (yes, I am kicking myself for not saying yes to my mom, she must have offered to put my name on the title over a million times). Things change when you realize that your parents are gone, I always pictured her in that home and I agreed to take care of her as long as she wanted me too. All my memories of my parents are there, and my childrens memories of their grandparents, my mom couldn't wait to see her great-grandchildren roll down the hill, my grandson is only 8 months old. I have to find a way to keep this home in the family.
Not ready to let go.
Any advice would be helpful, thank you
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